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June 27, 2003

Getting kids to stay in bed

One of the most common problems parents have with young kids is getting them to stay in their beds! Here's what seems to work well:

1. Let them have a say in decorating their room and picking out their furniture if you're moving them from a crib. If not, even picking out a comforter, a night light, a lamp or some wall border would help.
2. Establish a rigid bedtime routine. For instance: Brush teeth,bathe, comb hair, then read two stories, sing two lullabies, rub the tummy, then rub the back. Give them a choice before sending them to bed so it doesn't invite power struggles: It's bedtime. What do you want to do first, take a bath or brush your teeth?"
3. Then tell them you'll "check on theim in 5 minutes," but if they come out of their rooms, you reset the timer. Then check on them (usually longer than 5 minutes, but they don't know!) rub their backs alittle and talk very softly and very little. Repeat at lengthening intervals and they're usually down for the count within minutes. If they get out, tell them you have faith in them to stay in their beds and that you have to have your Mommy Time
4. If they persist in getting up, lock your bedroom door when you go to bed and don't open it at al. If they knock and cry, etc. REpeat that you have faith in them to confort themselves and say little else. Let them camp out in front of the door if they must.

Hope that helps.

June 25, 2003

Title Contest

I'm almost finished with Book #3: It's all about adult/child communication and how certain remarks, some that will surprise you, can harm children. Many can create external direction by programming kids to become approval seekers and hindering the development of their reasoning skills. This external direction is the root of most problems among kids, in schools, in families, in communities and in society as a whole. The working title was Lip Service: How What We Say Affects the Kids We Love, but the publisher didn't like that title. She changed it to "Hearing is Believing" but this just doesn't zing. Actually, my first title was STOP THAT! And Other Remarks That Mess Up Kids. If you have any great ideas, submit them. A free book to whoever suggests the winning title.

How to have less conflict in the family

Want a child who doesn't rebel in his teens? Want a child with a good self-esteem? Want a peaceful family environment without power struggles and emotional upheavals? Email me through www.drmedhus.com and I'll send you a free article explaining how this can be done. One exercise in particular will make a profound impact on your kids and family within 2 weeks. Most of it entails things we remove from our parenting, not things we add. Much easier than whatever it is you're doing now!

Pub date for book #2

The pub date for Raising Everyday Heroes is October 2003. You can preorder a copy through Barnes and Nobles online or in the stores, through drmedhus.com, or Amazon. It addresses the growing epidemic of helplessness in kids today, how they're rescued from everything, including responsibility, frustration, boredom, want, consequeces, etc., and how, by allowing them to struggle and by applying other techniques I suggest--kids can become true heroes. I'm not talking about celebrities who are idolized for their fame, rebound points, wealth, beauty or rap sheets. I'm talking about people who have the courage to do what's right, even if it means sacrificing something, enduring ridicule or criticism, resisting temptation, or experience other unpleasantness. Hope you enjoy it!

Salvia abuse in kids

All parents beware, smoking the common houseplant, Salvia, has gained increasing popularity over the last few months. It causes visual hallucinations, but otherwise, not much is known about it. If you have information, please comment!

June 13, 2003

Hello and welcome!

Hello and welcome to my website, I hope you enjoy your stay. Now that technical difficulties are out of the way, I will begin my first "real" post shortly. Check back very soon for the new post!